IF sucks

amccul20

I talked to one of my best friends from back home yesterday. we've been chatting back and forth and I kept telling her I wanted to chat, because I wanted to share our news, and she kept saying yes we need to talk on the phone soon.

So yesterday she called me and I told her I was pregnant. she knows what we've been through and it was so great to share our news with her.

well she told me she's also pregnant! the thing that makes me sad is that she's 19 weeks pregnant! she said she had planned on telling me when we went back to Ohio this fall but after spending so much $ on IVF and then actually getting pg Ben and I decided not to. so she just hasn't said anything.  she wanted to tell me face to face and not over the phone and she was worried to tell me because she didn't want me to be upset. but i'm so excited for her and I love that we're going to have kids that are 2 months apart!

but I hate that IF makes people scared to share their good news with you.

my older sister also told me she was scared to tell me when she was pregnant again because of how I might react.

yes people a pregnancy annoucement isn't always easy to take in, but I love you and i'm happy for you!!

sparklingdiamond

I totally know what you mean about being too scared to share!  That is so great that you will have kids so close in age!

Uptowngirl2009

Wow that's incredible that your babies will be so close in age! IF does suck but at least people around you are being sensitive to your struggles. My SIL knew what we were going through and she still AW'ed her pregnancy in our faces. We can't wait to return the favor and see how mad she gets that she has to share the spotlight this time. It sounds terrible I know but she has been really awful to us.

brij2006

That is great that you and your friend will have kids that close in age. Automatic friends. :-)

IF does suck in this regard, and I think a lot of people just don't know how to act or what/how to say things. 

I told one of our pregnant friends in May that my body wasn't cooperating and our chances of conceiving naturally were very slim.  Her and I would e-mail back and forth throughout the day, everyday.  She was due in June, and after I told her about what was going on, she quit e-mailing me. She wouldn't talk to me about anything baby related and would never send me pictures of her son.  It hurt. I knew she was doing it to keep me from hurting, but I felt very distant from her when we had been so close before. It wasn't until we told her and her husband about our round of Clomid and BFP a few weeks ago, that she started e-mailing me everyday again.  Sometimes I feel that we want to put it out in the open about IF, but it can put others in an uncomfortable situation and cause people close to us to not know what to say or how much to say to us.

wiggyslilsis

I totally understand. My brother was nervous to tell me that his wife was pregnant the month before they were going to start trying. So happy that you two will have LO's so close in age

sgautschi

That's great you're going to have someone to go through this with IRL!

My cousin found out she was pregnant a couple weeks after me. She had been trying for months and months following a late term loss, and finally got pregnant! Now our kids are a month apart.

sb2006

My Sister did that too- instead of calling me before the pee was even dry she waited until I was on skype with my husband (he was deployed) to call me. I wanted to know immediately! Yes it stings but I love you and I'm going to have another niece!

No one even knows if we are trying again or not but my Mother won't talk to me. One of my best friends recently announced she was pregnant (on FB I've known for awhile) and instead of my Mom talking to me she called my sister to ask her how I was "dealing" with it. Blah IF sucks on so many levels.

spin25

It definitely hurts when people don't share their pregnancy news with you because they fear hurting you. I'm sorry she put off telling you for so long. Yay for kids close in age though.

LittleLady77

IF is horrible.

BackseatDriver

That is awesome that you will have children right around the same age. Hopefully you will be great supports for each other!